It is amazing what leaving will do for you on so many levels. You look much happier and relaxed. For some people it is very hard on your health. I just showed my husband, family and friends my before cult picture, one while I was in when I was the most depressed and sick and then what I look like today. My husband cried when he saw what it did to me and the others were shocked. i am so thankful I am out!
Aunt Fancy
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How do JWs Not see how barbaric YHWH is? Its what started my awakening.
by BU2B inif one reads genesis from the first chapter through the end with an open mind, it is clear that not only is it not true, but that god is potrayed as a cruel, petty, childish micromanaging tyrant.
if one continues reading the ot this is just further solidified.
how do jws not see the obvious?
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Aunt Fancy
I find this topic very interesting. I remember many times being upset by the actions of "Jehovah" and I voiced it a few times. I always got the same pat answers but I honestly think in my sub conscience I knew things weren't right. I hardly ever prayed because it just never felt right and of course you always blame it on yourself but he did not make me feel warm and fuzzy at all.
I really liked the points a AndDontCallMeShirley made on this thread and also what BU2B posted.
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How many in the cong visited you when you started fading
by joe134cd ini'm just curious speaking from a person who has stopped going to meetings.
i have heard reports from inactive ones (or from ones who the elders suspect of going to the dark side) of having so many visits from elders (cong members) that it got to the point of harassment.
surprisingly i have to say from personal experience and from numerous others that i have spoken to that the exact opposite has been the case.
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Aunt Fancy
That is crazy! It is freeing to not see them around.
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How many in the cong visited you when you started fading
by joe134cd ini'm just curious speaking from a person who has stopped going to meetings.
i have heard reports from inactive ones (or from ones who the elders suspect of going to the dark side) of having so many visits from elders (cong members) that it got to the point of harassment.
surprisingly i have to say from personal experience and from numerous others that i have spoken to that the exact opposite has been the case.
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Aunt Fancy
Steve: no I didn't bury her in my back yard I took her out in the woods! Just kidding, lol. Your question really made me laugh.
We have so many congregations in our area and the weird thing is I never see JW's at all. I go out shopping and run errands and it has been at least 6 months since I saw one. we walked away so I am not sure if they see me and run in the other direction. Even our neighbor is one and I just see him occasionally. He isn't a strong one and he would never talk about the religion or pry into our business
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HAPPY WEDDING ANNIVERSARY MR & MRS SMIDDY
by smiddy in53 years ago we got married in a kh by a bro.
about 20 years ago my wife and i, and two children left the cult , and have never been happier .. wifey was happy with the flowers i gave her and this evening we will go for a quiet dinner at a restuarant with a bottle or two of champers and if i`m lucky i may even get desserts , or not.. smiddy.
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Aunt Fancy
Happy Anniversary to both of you! Now that is something to celebrate!!
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How many in the cong visited you when you started fading
by joe134cd ini'm just curious speaking from a person who has stopped going to meetings.
i have heard reports from inactive ones (or from ones who the elders suspect of going to the dark side) of having so many visits from elders (cong members) that it got to the point of harassment.
surprisingly i have to say from personal experience and from numerous others that i have spoken to that the exact opposite has been the case.
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Aunt Fancy
We started our fade 19 months ago. Right when we started it I found out I had breast cancer. They sent a sister over who had it too but I did not answer the door. They also sent the CO over last year and we have had a few elders stop by along with one phone call. We never answered the door or the phone. We use to have a pioneer/elders wife clean our home for 16 years and we got rid of her after we had been fading for about a year. I couldn't take the fact that she was in our house and I had to hide everything I was reading and couldn't decorate for the holidays.
I think the thing that bothered me the most was one of my good "conditional" friends told me on the phone two weeks into my radiation treatments I was her best friend. That was the last time I ever heard from her which was over a year ago. Great friend!!! Can't even give you support through treatment.
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The Elders Returned, as Promised!
by exWTslave inwonderful love!.
wonderful love!.
wonderful love!.
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Aunt Fancy
You are a threat to them because you were a former elder. They will continue to go after you and I would be very surprised if they don't DF you.
I loved what you said; I “helped many to return to JWs org, through my shepherding calls.” That means there were many others whom I could not persuade to return to JW org. Because my WT-trained reasoning worked with the gullible, but not with those who had sound reasoning power and were well-grounded in the Bible—these were the ones who actually inspired me to THINK properly!”
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Tainted Love: Your JW wedding
by Julia Orwell inmine was actually great because my non-jw parents decided to pay for the reception, limo, cake, dress, honeymoon, and more.
i can thank my non-jw parents for what a totally fun day it was.. but, half or more of the guests were jws, jws who don't speak to me anymore.
some have even slandered and abused me.
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Aunt Fancy
We will be married 32 years on Thursday. My family lived 1600 miles away from us and it was both of our second marriage. I was not a JW and my husband was DF at the time so we went out to a little country Justice of the Peace and I had a girlfriend stand for me and his cousin stood for him. His dad was there (an inactive JW) but his mom did not attend because he was DF which at the time I didn't understand.
A week later we had a nice party at the house and the girlfriend who stood for me, her mom made a wedding cake for us. Now what is funny is his mom came to the party! We did not go on a honeymoon for 5 years because we were young and starting a business but when we finally went on one we went to Steamboat Springs, Colorado which was such a romatice place.
I am am a real girly girl and I always wanted a big fancy wedding but never got it. Years ago my husband wanted to do another wedding so I could have the works but we decided against it because of the religion.
We didn't have a professional photographer but if I were you, I would choose only the pictures with just the two of you to put out so you just remember the love you felt for each other that day and still do to this day.
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At what point did you destroy your Blood card?
by BU2B ini know for me it was soon after lurking here for awhile and reading some threads on the issue.
i remenber when i tore it into little tiny pieces.
it felt so liberating..
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Aunt Fancy
We started fading 19 month ago. I think a couple of weeks after reading COC I put it threw the shredder and it felt so liberating.
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What are you doing on Valentine's? I was invited to a party... er... a JC
by ILoveTTATT inso i go to that dinner with my parents.
it worked great!
i think i increased my mom's cog dis just by showing her i am the same good person, and having fun.
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Aunt Fancy
Hang in there! If it were me I would not attend a JC and just walk away with your head held high. They only have control over you if you give it to them. I know it is so important to you to get your parents out and I think you are doing such a loving thing by contacting Steve Hassen to see if he can help you. I really hope it works.
I doubt your parents are as old as my husband and I are but they still have plenty of time to get out and start their life over. We are 58 & 60 and we started our exit 19 months ago. It isn't easy but it is so much better then living a lie and it taking such a huge toll of my health. Our lives have changed for better and we are doing new and exciting things now.
Let us know what happens and I hope it goes well. You have a lot of courage and keep up the good work you are doing.